A hidden reality of helping women in fitness, is the response and support of their husbands or significant other (Aka "old man"). I have yet to help a woman achieve significant changes to her body without her experiencing some turbulence in her relationship. Most of the time, this situation is resolved with a few mature conversations helping the husband or "old man" accept that his woman is now "hot" and will indefinitely be receiving extra looks and some unsolicited attention from other men. The woman typically reassures him of her faithfulness and eventually appeases his insecurity. Case closed and they live happily ever after with hot new wifey (and if she's lucky, he decides to join her at the gym so she doesn't spend their 401K with another man due to husbands premature death attributed to hypokinetic chronic disease!). Unfortunately, sometimes a metamorphasized woman becomes destructive with her new prowess-powers (think of a Pink Incredible Hulkette seductive homewrecker on steroids). 

My experience in conservative Indiana is most Christian women who regularly exercise their faith don't fall like this. Intuitively, an evolving woman understands that becoming her healthier, fitter and typically better looking self will glorify God, especially when free of the vanity idol. Sadly, I've seen too many Christian husbands struggle with the idea of their wife receiving looks from other men. Hurting and handicapping other from evolving is not Gods plan which is why I'm sharing these reasons Christian Husbands Should Help Their Wives In AND Out of Yoga Pants...and into yoga class!


1. You like how she looks in AND out of yoga pants. Yes, another man might catch a glance too but doesn't know or appreciate her assets like you do! The truth is, your wife is likely a modest dresser and isn't looking to draw this type of attention to herself. The rest of the truth is that most men at the gym and in yoga class are more interested in looking at themselves instead of a momma trying to get in shape. Their nanosecond imaginative look at your wife in yoga pants doesn't have time to get her out of the pants because they need to make sure they are posing, grunting  breathing or sweating properly. If only Adam was watching his wife strolling around that forbidden tree... This really does put you in a dilemma now doesn't it Christian husband? If you really understood grace, you wouldn't have an issue and would trust your wife's judgement on the yoga pants thing. God trusts you and grants you grace when you mess up...shouldn't you do the same with her? Help her into those yoga pants!

2. Christian Women Should Work It!  (See my post: Why Christian Women Should Work It) Work it does NOT mean riske wardrobe, table dancing on Friday night or general floozie. It means she's "got it!" Size doesn't matter on this one, we all know when a woman "has it" and many-a-sized woman has it! Yes, Christian husband, you know your wife has it but does she realize she has it? Yes, I understand that you know that other men know she has it too and you're trying to keep the cat in the bag. The truth is she could be SO MUCH MORE!!!Encouraging her to wear to those yoga pants and get to that yoga class will help her become more comfortable in her body and in using her body. Better yet, you are the first in line for the ALL THAT MORE which will lend you many more opportunities to help her OUT of those yoga pants.

3. Community. Women are supportive of each other and thrive in groups. Typically, a yoga class is predominately and sometimes exclusively women who form wonderful sisterly relationships, especially within the YOGATHEA® Christian Yoga + Meditation Classes. The health benefits of yoga and meditation are undeniable and benefit the individuals and their communities. We will send her home properly encouraged, listening to her laments along the way. This community and her yoga pants will energize you to help her in AND out of those yoga pants...whichever your prefer!

As a person who not only enjoys exercising my mind and body but my mouth as well, I have learned, mostly the hard way, a few times it's best to be silent.

If in doubt, my experience is that it's best to keep my mouth shut, however, here are 5 situations you're BEST to be silent:


1.  When Listening 

As a discussion becomes interesting, it can be terribly difficult to refrain from interjecting your ingenuous sparked idea.  You have 2 ears and 1 mouth for a reason, be silent and allow the other person to complete what they have to say.


2.  When Someone Else Deserves the Credit

We've all been there, either someone received credit for our work or we are recognized for the work of another.  In either case, speaking up will inevitably make you seem overly entitled so it's best to be silent.


3.  The First Date

Whether a business meeting or Friday night dinner, you just met the person.  Listen and let your less be more so that you have a chance for the second date..


4.  When It's Not Your Business

Enough said.

5.  After an Apology

We all screw up so when you find yourself needing to apologize, be humble and apologize sincerely. Once you have apologized, listen. The information the offended shares as this point is likely difficult for you to hear but incredibly valuable for your maturity so zip it!

Practicing yoga and meditation has certainly helped me grow in the time to be silent, in AND out of social situations. If you find yourself dominating a conversation (uh-hem guilty), pipe down and remember Proverbs 17:28, "Even fools are thought wise if they keep silent."  So true!

This week the Supreme Court ruled in favor of Hobby Lobby as a "closely held" corporation, which according to my friend and IUK colleague Linda (a #yogathea who is very involved teaching her business law classes thus neglecting her yoga class) "brings up a host of other issues" about whether public corporations can hold firmly held religious beliefs reflected in their mission, vision and core values statements. If you're unaware of the details of this case, Hobby Lobby, a national craft store chain founded and operated by a religious group with fundamental beliefs about birth control, appealed to the US Supreme Court to be exempt of providing birth control options as a part of their employee health care plan as now mandated by Obamacare.

The last I knew, health insurance provided by an employer is a privilege not a right.  Because of this, I am grateful President Obama is making efforts to have health insurance accessible to all.  However, thank you to Your Honors for protecting the religious freedom of businesses as I run a "closely held" Christian Yoga corporation that relies on exercising freedom on a regular basis.  Now don't get me wrong, I'm all about women exercising their freedom to use birth control pills for whatever purposes, I simply don't understand why someone thought is was their employer's responsibility to pay for this inexpensive and accessible prescription. Evidently they don't want to accept the financial responsibility here.   Taking personal responsibility for ones health involves making informed choices on nutrition and exercise and following through to provide the resources to enable health.  The resources are often time, money and energy which Americans don't want to give.  Instead, American Citizens  place the responsibility of their personal health in the hands of their employers, hoping to avoid committing money, time or energy.  Employers are assuming this responsibility and directing health decisions for us.  Now, our employers and insurance companies are desperately trying to educate and incentivize us to take responsibility, though based on the sedentary look of these Justices above and the observation that more people patron restaurants than gyms on Monday nights(simultaneously the gym's busiest night of the week and the restaurants slowest); I'm guessing we aren't going to take responsibility for our health and our healthcare will be dictated by our employers' insurance company protocols.  This too may eventually influence our personal religious freedom as these protocols are likely going to be more sensitive to the business' core values, not to the many personal religious beliefs out there.  This young lady seems to have the right idea to "stand" for religious freedoms!  I doubt she is worried about what her employer's health care plan covers... (even if she may need help for cramps :-O)

Assuming responsibility for your health could very well protect your religious freedom.  Most of my #yogatheas participate in class as a hobby of sorts, this lobbies for their religious freedom.  Bike races, community runs, yoga class participation, tracking body-bug data are only a few of the hobbies that help you assume responsibility and lobby for your religious freedom.  I love teaching and training the Christian Yoga Instructors because I see them exercising their religious freedom in their communities. Most of these instructors teach as a hobby and this hobby lobbies for religious freedom.  

The opposite of success is mediocracy, not failure.  I often tell my classes that we don't know our limits until they've been exceeded.  I usually say this after someone falls attempting a challenging pose. 


I really want to do a hand stand, I'm so close yet each time I attempt to succeed, I fail.  Success does not come without failure...sometimes lots of it.   Failure couples success, they go hand in hand.  Mediocracy rarely if ever couples success, or failure.  I suppose that's why mediocracy stays in the not too dangerous zone and doesn't ever seem to change.  A hand stand is not a mediocre yoga pose.  One day I will lift off onto my extended arms and remain perpendicular to the ground...perhaps next week.  The success will be bliss and worth the effort for me.  Knowing myself well, I will then work to complete a hand stand push-up or hand stand lotus...more failure ahead for an even bigger success. 

Successes in life involve effort, sacrifice and well failure.  Many of the results in the ministry of Christ could initially be considered failure but proved to be a stepping stone to success (being murdered or having such a small number of followers in comparison to the multitudes of listeners).  So the next time you are feeling like a failure, remember you tried which puts you on the path to success and makes you more than mediocre.

Preparing for this weekends Christian Yoga and Meditation Retreat, "Experience the Outlook of Freedom", forgiveness has been on my mind.  Forgiveness is freedom.  There are may scriptures nudging us towards forgiveness.  Forgiveness is a gift we give to ourselves as we let go of our grievances. 

Forgiveness is NOT forgetting. 

Pain is an effective teacher.  When I was a child I remember being paddled for jumping on my parents bed (they had given me warning as I gleefully wrecked their beautifully made bed).  I never jumped on their bed again.  Good thing (for them)  I remembered the pain.  I've met many Christians who are ridden with guilt because they can't "forgive and forget".   As they try to forget, they miss the fundamental steps of forgiveness...what they are doing is covering a festering wound.  In their heart, they still want revenge.  We all know this.  Often it is important to REMEMBER so that we do not enter a dangerous relationship again...as I said, pain is an effective teacher. 

 Christ instructed us to forgive, so that we can be free to use our energy in positive ways, versus revenge.  Forgive and forget are two separate things.   After forgiveness, it is our free decision to restore the relationship or not.  This judgment should not be taken lightly and council or advice helps us find perspective.   If we should decide to restore the relationship, I do believe forgetting is essential.   Though Christ is able to no longer hold our sins against us through forgiveness, our sinful nature usually needs some help and in that case a little forgetfulness might be in order! 

Once in church I was listening to a story of how a huge bald man wearing only his Speedo, running  shoes and iPod jogged past the secluded forest worship service this young minister was leading during his summer evangelism efforts in the Ukraine  (before the Ukraine became unstable).  I couldn't help but think despite how interesting and inviting a forest worship service in the Ukraine sounded, I would prefer to be the dude in the Speedo jogging freely in God's creation.  I think Jesus would prefer jogging in the Speedo too, after all he did do crazy stunts like walking on water and hanging out alone in the desert with the devil.  Jesus spent most of his ministry outside of the traditional temple setting and practices.  Everyday of Jesus ministry was unpredictable and well, risky.  Jesus has the Feds on his back.

It's not that I don't appreciate new ideology or moral encouragement shared in church meetings and of course the esprit de corps of song is moving--just not as moving as running on a secluded Ukrainian forest trail in a Speedo.  Running in a speedo is much more out of the ordinary, perhaps the worship devotional would have been out of the ordinary for the huge Ukranian man.  I believe Jesus wants us to try the extraordinary to build our faith, once we have overcome our greatest obstacle, everything else is downhill, right?  At least until the next obstacle arises.   

It seems to me that walking on water attempts and dangerous ship rides were extraordinary efforts of the apostles and hallmark faith building events for them as well.  We remember with great detail times of risk: air gliding, Polar Bear Plunges, Mud Runs, trying yoga. 

I don't own a Speedo or the female triathlon equivalent.  I gave up running years ago though do occasionally jog for a convenient workout on vacation. Perhaps the next time I'm on vacation I will take that jog in the forest in my Speedo equivalent of sports bra and yoga shorts.  I hope I'm as comfortable as the Ukrainian dude, running past a group of young adults singing Christian hymns.     In efforts to grow your faith, I encourage you to try something outrageous, though make sure to keep the Feds off your back while on that road less traveled.

Years ago I provided occupational therapy services for the Indiana Department of Corrections in a high security all male prison.  Interesting job.   Most of my time there was spent in the infirmary, though on occasion I would need to make an escorted walk across the prison yard to the solitary confinement area to see a patient.  This trip usually involved hearing some whistles sprinkled with "hey baby" and occasionally more explicit and creative heckling.  A little uncomfortable, but nothing too serious being they were literally behind bars.  I definitely kept my head forward and walked as straight as possible giving zero indication that I might be working it.

 At one point in my tenure at the DOC I made this walk pregnant, which transformed the whistling into a stadium applause, and the uproar wasn't for the younger cute blonde trainee replacing me on my maternity leave...it was for the belly!  As I waddled and tried to ignore the dudes as usual, the shouting and cheering was getting louder and wilder with gate rattling and all--you would have thought that I just scored the winning score of a game.  Ready to have a baby in a few short weeks, I couldn't walk in my straight stiff posture--somehow by default I was working it.  The prisoners, and I, found this hilariously ridiculous--at least I could laugh at it (again they were behind bars).  Fortunately security picked me up in a vehicle to escort me for the return walk saying they didn't want to risk any chaos.  I was glad to not have to "work it" past them again with my waddle. 

Developing my yoga practice helps me move with poise and grace and confidence... poise, grace and confidence still gets whistles.   Having helped hundreds of women learn to feel more comfortable in their bodies through yoga, I know there is a fear of unsolicited attention from men that they are trying to avoid.  When the attention is from a group of men it becomes especially painful.   I also know that the women who keep a sense of humor while "working it" (whether the work is intentional or not) thrive.

A vexing story to me is that of Queen Vashti from the Old Testament Book of Esther.  This Queen was married to a powerful warrior that liked to celebrate his victories.  On the 7th day of an all boys party with open bar, he was drunk and summoned his wife to leave her guests at the all women's royal party so she could "work it" for him and all of his drunk male guests.  Nada.  As a result, for what I consider keeping her dignity as Queen, the royal advisors banished Vashti from her husband for life and stripped her of her royal position.  A decree went out for women to "respect their husbands from least to greatest".  Interestingly, despite having an estimated 350 wives,  Xerxes appointed Vashti's son as heir to the throne*.  Obviously Vashti didn't need a royal decree to be respected.

Fortunately for all of us Christians and Jews, Esther the Jewish girl was able to be a part of the king's sex slave collection (harem) and had the opportunity to spend one night in bed with him.  Somehow as a virgin she wowed him to become queen.  Esther knew how to "work it".  Later in the story when she needed that favor to save her people, she "worked it" again.  Esther's prowess saved the Jewish race which birthed Jesus.   I'm glad Xerxes didn't ask her to "work it" in front of his drunk friends though I'm guessing he learned that lesson the hard way and yes we are still discussing this over 2,500 years later!  Some stories just don't get old.

I've often heard Esther celebrated for her submission, today's mantra manna celebrates Esther for being able to "work it".   "Modest is Hottest"  is a virtue, but not at the expense of being unable to have the prowess to "work it" within the system as a woman.  Being a hermit and hiding doesn't change the world for Christ and this is why Christian woman should be able to "work it"...just like Queen Esther.

*Esther and Ahasuerus: An Identification of the Persons So Named ; Followed ...

 By Richard Edmund Tyrwhitt

The battle of the sexes as been going since Adam and Eve got kicked out of the garden...exactly who's fault was that?  Growing up, my dad use to tell me I was an "American Woman".  My dad was a Coptic Orthodox Egyptian immigrant who came to America to escape government religious prejudices that stunted his opportunity.  I'm not exactly sure whether "American Woman" meant I didn't have to face the persecutions he saw Egyptian women face, or that I had all the same opportunities as men in America, or that I had a big mouth and wasn't afraid to speak it.  Somehow by his voices proud richness and projection with a rounded edge, I believe dad meant all three!  Dad's declaration of "American Woman" has been mostly true for me.

Despite my equal opportunity as an American Woman, I have struggled with determining my value as a woman in the Christian faith.  Somehow through all the messages of God knows our troubles and understands, I never really believed Jesus understood what it was like to have PMS or experience the vulnerability of being a woman.  It's hard to feel valued when you're not understood.

Recently I read Paul Smith's "Is It Okay To Call God Mother:  Considering the Feminine Face of God."  Smith says,  11am Sunday morning is the most sexist hour in America.  I agree with Smith.  It would not be beneficial for me to share with you my thoughts and experiences of sexism in the church, that's not the purpose of this blog post.  I do want to bring to your attention that it IS okay to call God Mother.  God is referred to as feminine throughout Bible and understanding the gender neutrality of the original Hebrew and Greek Bible brings about a larger more balanced image of God than what you may have learned in Sunday School.  Did you know El Shaddai means breasted one?

So now to answer the question:  Are Women As Valuable As Men In The Christian Faith?  Knowing I was made in God's image, just as man (Genesis 1:27), and that my daughter is just as strong as my sons, with her own unique spirit and abilities to change the world--a force with passions and life and fire; women are definitely as valuable as men to God.  Knowing that my daughter will have to look a certain way for people to listen to her testimony and she too is more likely to be preaching from a yoga mat instead of a pulpit, I see that she will not be as valued as men in the Christian Faith and she too will have to grapple with her worth in Christ as a woman.  Fortunately, my daughter is also an "American Woman" and American Women have done much to foster change in the past century.  Perhaps it's time we consider increasing our value in the Christian Faith!

 [Just in case you were wondering, this picture is meant to be sarcastic].

For more references to the feminine face of God in the Bible, please see:  Hosea 11:3-4, Hosea 13:8, Deuteronomy 32:11-12, Deuteronomy 32:18, Isaiah 66:13, Isaiah 49:15, Isaiah 42:14, Jeremiah 44:25, Psalm131:2, Psalm 123:2-3, Matthew 23:37 and Luke 13:34, and Luke 15:8-10.

Babies spontaneously perform all sorts of  yoga poses without reserve or contraction.  As babies mature and acquire shame, the posing becomes less.  Starting a yoga practice takes humility.  Humility lightens the weight of shame.  Humility feels better than shame...a lot better than shame!   I can breathe and move and be flexible in humility.  I too have humiliating moments as a yoga instructor.  Fortunately, these moments have lightened my shame of being seen and freed me to be unconcerned about what side is up in down dog.  I hope my "Top 10 List" will make you laugh and more importantly embolden you to lighten up, take a risk and show up to a yoga class sometime.


 The Top 10 Humility Inspiring Moments as a Yoga Instructor


10.    Wearing my yoga pants to class inside out. 

That white diamond shaped lining in the seat of my yoga pants is suppose to be on the inside.  Must have been tired getting dressed that morning. 


9.  Faucet Nose

Starting the Sun Salutations at 6:30AM, my nose begins to leak like a faucet in forward fold.  The angle changes to down dog and more streaming.  At plank, I'm amazed that my nose can do this because there is literally a tablespoon of thin fluid on my mat.  Note to self:  Don't do yoga right after using the Netty Pot.


8.   Relaxing every muscle...I'm always hoping these will be silent and unoffensive.



















7.  Enough said...

6.   Happy Baby Pose.  If only we looked this cute!

5.   Wedgies in spandex!  I've had many and I'm not posting a picture.


4.  Titillation.  I wear padded sports bras now and always recommend two because gravity belongs in the same category as death and taxes.  


3.  Teaching yoga pregnant

I taught yoga throughout my four pregnancies.  Ironically my classes had a noticeable spike in attendance each time.  I'm guessing people didn't feel so vulnerable following along with the pregnant instructor.

2.  Face plant in Bird Pose.  That's what you get for having an ego.  For the record, I'm now working on hand stand poses and haven't fallen yet...

1.  Leaking Milk

After class, a woman asks me if I am nursing my new baby.  I proudly reply, "yes, I am."  She nicely says, "I can tell." and points to my soiled tank.  Wonder how long I was teaching with that wet spot there anyway??

See you in class soon, hopefully with my pants on correctly and body fluids under control!  Remember, you don't have to be perfect, you just have to show up!!

This past week I finished "The Gifts of Imperfection:  Let Go of Who You Think You're Supposed to Be and Embrace Who You Are" by Brene' Brown, Ph.D., L.M.S.W.   Next week we will send our oldest son back to public school after homeschooling him for 18 months.  I really thought I was supposed to be Super-Christian-Mom and help my over-active child sit still and concentrate for academics while speaking to churches and selling Christian Yoga And Meditation products during my "free" time.

Here's who I really am: I'm a gym rat with spandex, supplex or other "ex" fabrics assuming a significant portion of my wardrobe; I fart while teaching Christian Yoga; I think Jeff Foxworthy is hilarious because his jokes remind me of my family and friends; I have deeper spiritual experiences during Christian Yoga and Meditation than I do singing in church, and I relate to the working moms more so than with the stay-at-home moms. 


Did I mention I'm really competitive? 

Doesn't much fit the Christian supposed to be list.  Fortunately Jesus used socio-religious renegades to spread His gospel like the ancient redneck Apostle Peter (a fisherman) and the alleged former psycho Mary Magdalene (woman healed of 7 demons).  Jesus embraces me so I'll embrace me too.  


Perhaps I'll teach my son Christian Yoga and Meditation to help him sit still and concentrate in his studies.  Or maybe his activeness will help him change the world for his generation...  Dr. Brown, thank you for your insights and encouragement and if you comment on my blog I will be glad to send you a complimentary digital copy of my currently out of stock Guided Meditation CD, "Let Be and Be Still and Know" to help you deal with the larger college boys who can't sit still in your classes!

Women are busy, busy, busy.  Did I mention that women are busy?  I spent this past weekend teaching a Guided Meditation Workshop and a Christian Yoga Session at the Chicago Church of Christ’s Midwest Women’s Retreat, “Shine”, held at the beautiful Abbey Resort in Lake Geneva, WI.   The primary skill of being still, breathing and listening for God’s voice within seemed an incredible blessing to so many busy women.  Testimonies of, “I felt something I have never felt before,” tears, release, emotional chaos, and spiritual elation were all disclosed with me.  


As a Christian, I’ve spent countless hours sipping coffee over discipling times, volleying chit-chat, hugs, and the sincere “you-poor-thing” sigh and face.  The invitation Jesus gives to his busy apostles after a business trip in Mark 6:31 is, “Come with me to a quiet place and get some rest.”  Two friends of mine, Misha and Suzanne, regularly meet for coffee before attending my Saturday morning YOGATHEA®Christian Yoga Class.  What a wonderful way to end time with a friend…in silence.  I hope the resources I provided at this Women’s Retreat will inspire the shared silence and rest Jesus offered in his discipling times.  Let’s stop talking and start listening together!